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Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Ike from Woodbridge, VA

I have a friend who asked about house cleansing. What materials would be needed and how would one be performed? Thank you.


Dear Ike,

Nice to hear from you again, Ike! Here's an easy house blessing ritual for you and your friend to do.

1 medium or large sage bundle
Heat-proof container
3 cups of water
1 glass bowl (large enough to accommodate the water and herbs)
4 tablespoons of dried lavender
2 sprigs of fresh rosemary
1 tablespoon of basil
zest of one lemon
zest of one orange
1 small sponge

1. Put lavender, fresh rosemary, lemon zest, and orange zest into the glass bowl.
2. Pour the water over the mixture.
3. Unplug all smoke detectors until the ritual is completed (VERY IMPORTANT!).
4. Move to the lowest part of the house with the sage, heat-proof container, and lighter.
5. Light the sage bundle and let the fire burn for about 30 to 45 seconds.
6. Blow out the flame on the sage bundle. The red embers are what creates the cleansing smoke.
7. Using a circular motion, wave the sage bundle near every wall, corner, and crevice of the room.
8. Once you have finished the room, stand in the center and say "By this sacred smoke this room is cleansed."
9. Go into the next room and repeat steps 7 and 8. Do this to every single room in the home (including the attic!).
10. Once you have finished, go back into the kitchen and place the sage bundle on the heat-proof container and put both of them in the sink.
11. Take the herbal bowl mixture and sponge to the front door.
12. Dip the sponge into the water and "wash" the door frame.
13. Once you have finished, stand back and say "By this sacred mixture, this home is protected against negativity."
14. Repeat steps 12 and 13 for each door and windowsill in the home.

The whole process will take about an hour, depending on the size of the home, and it's well worth all the effort!

Let me know how it goes!


Sunday, November 27, 2011

Rachele from Fairfax, VA

If someone is a witch in this life, do you believe she will still be a witch in her next life?


Dear Rachele,

It's a possibility. If not in the next life, maybe a few lives down the line.


Thursday, November 24, 2011

Al Sam from Glenmont, MD

I'm in a bit of a pickle here. My question is about totem animals. Everybody has them, some more than others, but I have a totem animal that I am deathly afraid of: spiders. I have been a practicing witch since I was young thanks to my grandfather. We've been practicing shamanism together for a long time. He passed when I was still young but I still went on practicing with his memory in my heart. When I was young, the spider has been a strong medicine animal for me, but I have always been avoiding them still. Now that I'm an adult, I still haven't gone over that fear, but I feel as if I need to stop ignoring the messages the spider still offers me but my fear prevents it. I don't really know what to do. Is it wrongful of me to keep avoiding the spider? Should I overcome my fear of spiders? If so, how?

Dear Al Sam,

Yes and no. Yes, you need to overcome your fear of spiders enough to work with them on the magickal plane. No, you don't have to overcome your fear enough to play with them in person. Like you, one of my lifelong totems is the spider, and like you I'm afraid of them. However the power and magick they bring into my life is undeniable. To deny the power of the spider totem is to deny the power within yourself. Ask your grandfather's spirit to assist you in overcoming your fear.


Allen from Quantico, VA

If one is in a relationship that is a result of a love spell, how does one get out of it? I am in such a relationship and want to get out but am drawn to the person. There are so many red flags and problems, and it doesn't seem right to me, but I'm drawn like a magnet to the person. Any ideas...


Dear Allen,

I need you to answer a couple of questions for me first because your answers will help me help you find the right solution.

Are you married or handfasted? Did you two make any kind of vows to each other, and if so, what were the vows? Is your lover a practicing witch? How long have you two been together? Are there children involved? Is there another lover you are interested in?

Send me your answers and I'll post again with a response.


Monday, November 21, 2011

Kasi from Woodbridge, VA

I have an ex who I have a 3 year old daughter with. I left him because he was violent to the extreme and now I'm in an ugly battle for custody for my child. To say I have to share my baby with a monster is an understatment and I worry every day that she is with him that something bad will happen to her. Thanks to our wonderful court system in Maryland, I have to wait and wait until we go for our final hearing in December. I have been fighting this since January. I want to know if there is a spell that will work to make him forget us and leave us alone. I planned to visit this store and talk with someone in person but I figured I'd ask when I saw the site. Thanks for any help.


Dear Kasi,

Samantha will be working at the shop this Saturday if you wanted to come by the shop to talk. Until then...

I can't begin to imagine how difficult and emotionally draining the last few years have been on you. I would like to say that the justice system won't let you down, but the truth is that our legal system is flawed.

There are three goddesses I would recommend; Kali, protector of women, Hecate, bringer of justice, and Lilith, defender of children.

There is also a book I would recommend: Utterly Wicked by Dorothy Morrison. There are a number of spells listed in the book that will help you.

I really would like to talk to you about this privately. Please send in your email address!


Sunday, November 20, 2011

Heidi from Norway

Hey:) I have only one question:) I wonder, there are so many spells on the internet, but none of them sound believable. Anyone know how I can find the ones that are more credible, from the Old Grimoires? I wonder if it is possible to put a spell on a necklace, so that as long as you wear it, so will the spell work for you, is it possible?


Dear Heidi,

If you believe in a spell, it will work. Old grimoire spells are not necessarily more effective than modern ones; in either case, the caster's belief that it will achieve the desired result will determine its effectiveness.

Keep reading books and websites with an eye toward finding spells that can be adapted to your use. When you find a spell that strikes a chord with you, modify it to fit your needs, to make it even more personal and powerful. When you feel confident enough, try writing your own spells!

Yes, you can create a spell for a necklace that will last for a long period of time but it's always in your best interest to reenergize the necklace at least once every three months.


Thursday, November 17, 2011

Leah from Charlottesville, VA

Hi there! I'm a relatively new solitary witch and am trying to find a good place to buy supplies like herbs in Charlottesville. Any suggestions? Thanks!


Dear Leah,

I'm sorry, but I don't know of any metaphysical stores in your area. However, 
13 Magickal Moons ships all of our products, including herbs. Please visit our website for a complete list of available herbs. If you don't see what you're looking for, please feel free to call or email the shop to ask.


Monday, November 14, 2011

Taheerah from Kent

I would like to know if my daughter's father and I will be together soon?


Dear Taheerah,

I'm really sorry hon but I have no idea. The Ask-A-Witch program is for those looking for answers regarding their spirituality, not a free psychic reading site.


Friday, November 11, 2011

Lisa from Derry, NH

I need to know what happens when you break a binding love spell, and the effects on the caster. I did a love/binding spell on my husband when we were separated. I took nail clipping and tied knots for a penis hex, and I also used my husband's hair. I also did candle spells to bind our love and each other through eternity. I want to know what will happen to us if I break those spells. The reason why we got separated was because he cheated on me.


Dear Lisa,

As long as you don't do the unbinding in a moment of anger or rage, but with the honest emotion of just letting go, then there will be no repercussions for you or him. When relationships end, it's very hard to accept the fact that it's over. One of the most healing things we can do is let go of the relationship before it turns to hate. I would suggest including the wedding band and engagement ring in the unbinding.


Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Cathy from Coal City, WV

I am new but eager to start casting but don't know much. What will happen if I don't cast the spell right?


Dear Cathy,

You should never perform any type of magickal working unless you're confident in what you're doing. It's okay to make mistakes during spell and ritual work; for the most part you laugh it off and keep going. But that is different than not knowing what you're doing. 
Spells require focus and concentration to create a specific change in your life. If you aren't completely focused on your specific task, not only is it likely your spell won't succeed, but it could have unexpected negative consequences as well.


Monday, November 7, 2011

JoJo from Manassas, VA

I've frequented your store for quite sometime now. I adore it being the only occult store I know. I'm rather shy and every time I come in I want to ask how I can perfect my craft and personalize my practices. I'd love to be mentored one-on-one if at all possible. Is there hope for me to not make a fool of myself trying to be more educated on the path of the Lord and Goddess?


Dear JoJo,

I'm always happy to hear when people like 13 Magickal Moons. Thank you! Please don't be afraid to ask questions of any of our employees. We were all beginners at one time, and the only way to learn is to question. And I promise, we've heard it all!

A great way to begin learning about the craft and meet fellow pagans is to attend our open sabbat rituals. We just celebrated Samhain, and our Yule ritual will be on Wednesday, December 21st around 7:30 pm.

The only way to really perfect your craft is to practice it every day. Don't just talk the talk, but walk the walk. Try to spend time with your altar every day, even if it's only for a couple of minutes.

Finding a mentor who is willing to do one-on-one counseling is a little bit more difficult. Please use caution when selecting a mentor because a lot of people out there claiming to be spiritual leaders are nothing more than egocentric narcissists. Find someone that you feel a connection with, someone you can respect but are not in awe of.