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Saturday, August 31, 2013

Naomi from St. Helens

How do I become a witch myself? My grandmother was one and her mother too, but I never got to ask them.


Dear Naomi,

We actually have a special section set up for those new to this path.  Please visit our Advice for New Witches for information and recommended reading.


Friday, August 30, 2013

Al from Spokane, WA

This is mostly relevant, I think, but I apologize if I've veered out of your territory.

I've been studying for some time now and I'm feeling the impulse to shift directions slightly. I've got an urge to start growing herbs and learn about tinctures and remedies. As much as possible, I want to grow herbs myself (and harvest what I can locally, but I'm not 100% sure how much of that I'll be doing; my part of the country is a semi-arid desert). This means that I'll be having things outdoors for part of the year and moving them indoors for the winter.

So a couple questions:

1) Is there a great "get started" type of book that blends the practical and the magickal? I've read Cunningham's guide to herbs, but it definitely focuses more on the magickal, and doesn't do as much with the "home gardening" aspect as I would like.

2) What herbs would you say are the essentials - things I'll want to have on hand and appreciate that I grew myself?


Dear Al,

I'm a huge fan of herbalism, both magickal and medicinal.  There is a great book for medicinal herbalism called The Complete Idiot's Guide to Herbal Remedies by Frankie Avalon Wolfe.  Not only does this book have great starter recipes, but it has sections in the back for herbs and another for ailments.

I believe the essential herbs to have on hand are: chamomile, comfrey, echinacea, eucalyptus, ginger, lavender, marigold, rosemary, spearmint, St. Johns Wort, and valerian.

Please keep in mind that working with herbs can be just as dangerous as popping pills you are unfamiliar with.  Just because herbs come from nature doesn't mean they aren't dangerous when used in the wrong way or given to the wrong person.


Thursday, August 29, 2013

Tia from Broomfield, CO

I am about a month pregnant. There are two possible fathers. Are there any spells or anything I can do ASAP to find out which one is the father?


Dear Tia,

Not with any certainty.  You can try getting a tarot reading; I suggest John Marani!


Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Jodi from Mayflower, AR

I know my grandmother said our family had gifts, and I thought I would try to enhance my own, as they are sporadic. I decided to start at the beginning and do meditation. I was working with the silver light one. Everything went amazingly until the vision light reaches the base of my skull. It just flies out I can't stop it. It comes from not just my spine but my hands and feet too. I cannot figure out where or what I am doing wrong. Please help me. I want to control my gifts and learn, but I am at a standstill until I figure out how to fix this.


Dear Jodi,

The base of your skull is near your throat chakra, which controls the way you communicate with yourself and others.  One of the reasons your silver light "just flies out" is because your throat chakra is all out of whack.

There is a great book called The Book of Chakra Healing by Liz Simpson which can help you work with all of your chakras.

Another thing you can try is to start with learning to control your breath.  Begin by sitting comfortably with no distractions (no tv, music, cell phone, etc.) and just focus on your breathing.

Inhale slowly for a count of four. Hold for a count of four. Exhale slowly for a count of four. Hold for a count of four. Repeat.

Do this for three minutes, twice a day for a week.


Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Prince Capernion from California

Hello, for who it may concern,

I would like to know if there really is such thing as an immortality spell. If so, can someone direct me to how a person may achieve this great blessing? I mean physical immortality - being able to stay here and now. I don't mind if there are weakness because of the whole balance and such. I just never want to get older. Please and thank you.


Dear Prince Capernion,

Nope, there is no such thing as an immortality spell.


Monday, August 26, 2013

Harping Hawke from Somewhere, CA

Hi! Thank you so much for taking time to answer all these questions I've been reading!

My question is about coming out of the broom closet to a rather strange family. So, my mother was a witch who is now a very strong Christian and believes the end times are coming. (And then the implied: all nonbelievers are going to H-E-Double Toothpicks)! She had a few bad experiences with the Craft.

Dad is pretty laid-back, but I don't know how he'd react to this. Probably not well.

I have the horrible feeling that this could ruin my relationship with them; since I have amazing parents, this scares me. And, I regret to say, the whole Hell scare tactic is working. I feel so stagnant and confused and I have no idea what to do. Should I just stay in the closet?

Paganism makes me feel alive! Several years ago, I realized that though I believed in Christianity, I didn't feel that it was for me. Because I had some bad experiences at school, I was very angry at the world, and therefore I became atheist.

Anyway, I realized I couldn't live without a deity/creator in my life, no matter how furious I was about how my life was going. For the past three years I've been searching and searching for something that was close to my heart and made my soul sing.

And now that I've found it, I'm afraid to accept it. I've spent months agonizing over it - I even tried being a Christian Witch. There's a cross on my altar right now.

But none of this feels totally right. I just need help.

Sorry to bug you; I know you have a lot of questions to answer and this one is pretty long. Thank you! Have a wonderful day!


Dear Harping Hawke,

If your parents are as awesome as you think they are, then they will learn to accept your spiritual choices. They may not like your Pagan path and may even try to talk you out of it, but they will eventually come to realize that you are still their baby and your religious beliefs won't change that.


Saturday, August 24, 2013

AkashaSpirit from Amsterdam

Hi, I've had a few relationships, but there is one I can't forget. I tried everything, even magic, but nothing helps. I have a boyfriend who I love, but every time I see my ex, I feel sad and I miss him. I'm really confused and don't know what to do. I haven't seen my ex in years, and now I see him everywhere I go. This made me realize I'm not over him. Are there other spells that work? Thanks.


Dear AkashaSpirit,

Getting over a relationship can be a hard and loooooong process. I suggest you actively try to get over that relationship by being active.  Sometimes our residual emotions get stuck in different parts of our bodies which act like parasites sucking away at our new relationships and happiness.  Go for a fast walk, jog, or a run with the intention of really thinking about your ex. I would do this two or three times a week for the next four weeks, then perform whichever spell you performed to help you move on.

Write back in if that doesn't work.


Friday, August 23, 2013

Linda from Ottowa, Canada

Is it normal to feel very overwhelmed at all the information that's needed to be remembered/studied? Because I sure am...


Dear Linda,

Absolutely, YES.  But that's because we do it to ourselves. The God and Goddess don't sit in judgement of us if we don't have every color, stone, and herbal correspondence memorized. Take things slowly, set up an everyday altar, and perform rituals as often as you wish.

Welcome and Namaste!


Thursday, August 22, 2013

Elion from Izmir, Turkey

Hey, I have a question about dark spirits around us. It seems to be I am talking to a person who has a dark spirit inside him, who knows many things that no one knows about me. Do I have any way to stop it or get protected and banish it from me and my family? Because it really knows real things.


Dear Elion,

What do you mean you are "talking to a person who has a dark spirit inside him?" Do you mean you are friends with this person?  Then I recommend NOT being friends with him.  Cut your losses and walk away.

For protection against the person (dark spirit), read my post to Carol from Stafford. To protect your home, read my response to Star from Europe.


Wednesday, August 21, 2013

Jocelyn from North Brunswick, NJ

I'm in desperate need of quitting a certain drug that has ruined my life. I have tried everything and I'm not able to quit. Is there's anything you can suggest to help me? The main reason I won't quit is because of the pain I get when I'm not on it. Please help!!


Dear Jocelyn,

When it comes to quitting drugs/alcohol it's ALWAYS best to seek professional help and, yes, I am talking about rehab, or at the very least Narcotics AnonymousAddiction affects all of the bodies (physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual) and therefore can be extremely hard to kick.  

You can perform a binding spell on yourself BEFORE you go into to rehab, or seek other professional help.  But doing the binding spell alone will NOT be enough.

What you’ll need:

A picture of yourself
1” wide black ribbon
2 Small pieces of tape
1 small (4”) chime candle
Black salt (about ½ ounce)
Black Sharpie
Envelope big enough to hold the picture

Light the black candle and say: (Drug name) YOU HAVE NO POWER OVER ME.

Using the Sharpie, write on the back of the picture (in bold capital letters): (DRUG NAME) YOU HAVE NO POWER OVER ME! I CHOOSE A LIFE WITHOUT YOU IN IT.

Tape the end of the black ribbon to the top right of the back of the picture (this will hold the ribbon in place).

Begin wrapping the ribbon around and down the picture. With each turn of the ribbon say: (DRUG NAME) YOU HAVE NO POWER OVER ME! I CHOOSE A LIFE WITHOUT YOU IN IT.

Continue to wrap the ribbon around until you reach the bottom of the picture (right to left, back to front).

Repeat the process, top to bottom, front to back.

Remember to repeat the chant with each turn.

Once you have finished binding (wrapping) the picture, place it into the envelope along with the black salt.

Allow the candle to finish burning all the way down. Add any wax that is left over into the envelope.

Seal the envelope. Bury the envelope at a crossroads (preferably one not super close to your home or work). You’ll want to dig a hole at least four inches deep and large enough to fit the length and width of the envelope.

Once you’re done burying the envelope, walk away from it. Don’t look back. Don’t second guess yourself.

Please keep me updated on your progress.  I believe in you and I'm sure all my readers are rooting for you as well.


Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Jessamine from Atlanta, GA

I just wanted to thank you for your advice. Things have started to calm down. As for our entity (whatever it may be), I am feeling its presence far less, and my little girl hasn't said anything else about it. On a weird note, after the ritual, I was "stalked" by a little gray moth for several days. It was on the hood of my stove the entire time I cooked. It would hang out on the ceiling while I took a shower. I even found it stuck to my shirt after coming home from the grocery store. I'm not entirely positive it was related to the situation, but it was a very weird coincidence none the less. Thank you again for your help and concern. I am sending you tons of love and light!


Dear Jessamine,

I'm so happy to read/hear that things have settled down for you and your little girl is at peace!

It sounds like the moth is your new totem! Moths can represent intuition, attraction, determination, and faith.

Enjoy your moth totem! 


Monday, August 19, 2013

Anna from Indonesia

Hi, I think that perhaps my family is cursed. Call me crazy, but they have the same dream before they suffered a great illness. First it was my grandparents from my father's side. Then, my uncle and my aunt from my father's side. Next is the scary part. My dad suffered it too. This hex had killed three of my family members. If I don't do something, I too will get the curse. Yeah I know what you're thinking: I'm screwed. Can you tell me how to stop the curse?


Dear Anna,

Without knowing the content of the dreams, I can't really say that your family has been or is cursed or hexed.  It sounds more like your family members are having premonitions about their illnesses.


Saturday, August 17, 2013

Kelle from Port Charlotte, FL

Hello, I am trying to sell a house that I am not living in. It's been on the market for almost a year, and it's financially devastating to make two house payments. I have cast a spell to make it sell to no avail. The problem is, most of the spells I'm finding involve being in the house to cast them, but I'm 1,000+ miles away. Is there a good spell you can recommend that can be done remotely? Thanks!


Dear Kelle,

I suggest a magickal box!  

You'll need:
* A decorative flat top box
* Pictures of the home
* Any sales information you have on the home
* A piece of desert rose selenite (the wishing stone)
* A large unbroken bay leaf with your asking price written on it (a Sharpie works best)
* Green or gold spell candle anointed (from wick to end, moving towards you) with olive oil and rolled in basil

1. Place the pictures of the home, sales information, and bay leaf with asking price into the box. 
2. Hold the desert rose selenite in the palms of your hands and see (think, feel, sense) your home selling for your asking price. Once the energy has moved from you to the selenite, place it into the box.
3. Place green spell candle on top of box.
4. Place your hands over the candle and box and say something like:

Lord and Lady hear me this night
And get this house out of my life
A new family this house will quickly find
Their love for this home will get me out of this bind
My financial burden it will no longer be
I now ask with greatest need

5. Light the candle and allow it to burn down completely. It's okay if wax gets onto your box!
6. Leave on your altar until the home sells.


Friday, August 16, 2013

Rayven from Fredricksburg, VA

I had a dream the other night that has me very curious. In the dream, I felt like there was something hard just under the surface of my skin, on my chest above my heart. I was rubbing at it, and as I was rubbing, it started to come to the surface. I was able to work it out. It was a black stone, onyx perhaps, carved into a skull. I have been heavy with trying to find a meaning. Any thoughts?


Dear Rayven,

Black onyx is generally known for its protective qualities.  Are you getting over a heartache/heartbreak? If not, you might experience one soon.  The skull probably represents the person who has or will break your heart.


Thursday, August 15, 2013

Doreen from Arusha, Tanzania

Can I get magic money into my account so as to pay off my debts? The stress is causing me to want to take my own life.


Dear Doreen,

I wish there was a way for magic money to mysteriously appear into your bank account, or my account for that matter.  Truth is, it doesn't just magickally appear; it has to come from somewhere.  There are plenty of prosperity spells you can perform which can greatly help, but none that would pay off your debts.

Read my response to Maggie from Fairfax to find corresponding herbs and gemstones for prosperity.

Doreen, I know financial burdens can be extremely hard to deal with, but please try to remain strong and TRY to be grateful for something of the things you do have in your life. Times are tough for all of us right now, and many of us (myself included) are tightening an already-too-tight belt, but I have to believe things are going to get better.

Also, please read my blog about depression to see if you might need to see your doctor for medications to help deal with depression.


Tracee from Philadelphia, PA

Hello there. Many nights, I'm awakened by sounds in my apartment. It might be the sound of "snow" on the TV, but the TV is not on. It might be really loud clicking or slapping in the middle of the room. I've smudged a handful of times and spoken when I hear the sounds, but this keeps happening. Any idea if they are spirits and what they want? If they're positive or negative?


Dear Tracee,

They are spirits and they are trying to communicate with you.  I would guess their energy is positive since you don't sound afraid.  Next time you're woken up or hear the sound, say "Hello, how are you today?" out loud and wait for an answer.  It may take you a few tries, but don't give up.

Keep me updated.


Wednesday, August 14, 2013

Meghan from United Kingdom

Hi, I need urgent help. I'm a beginner witch, and I need to know a good instantly-working beauty spell that will make my hair grow jet black with dark brown natural highlights to my waist, flawless skin, and a slender body (the perfect size). It would help if this was only a prayer or chant without needing extra things like candles, etc. Or since you're more of an expert, can you do the spell for me? But please don't do anything but what I asked. Thanks, please let me know ASAP.


Dear Meghan,

Do you have ANY idea how freakin' RICH I would be if I had access to a spell like that?!


Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Cyndi from Nokesville, VA

I am noticing that lately I am having a very hard time centering myself. I am new to the path and am taking instruction through the Correllian, but everything that I have done in the past is not harmonizing with me. Ugh... Feeling sluggish, tired, and morose, and this is not me.

We have had some hard things happening, and I am trying to deal while also getting ready to move.

HELP!! Any advice would be most appreciated. Thanks so much for taking the time to read this.


Dear Cyndi,

I'm not very familiar with the Correllian tradition, but I would ask your high priest or high priestess about a basic grounding and centering meditation.

Grounding and centering (G&C) will allow you to take a few minutes to quiet your mind and focus solely on yourself. I recommend you start with a very simple G&C no longer than three minutes. Perform this every day for one to two weeks, and you should start to feel a difference with your energy levels and emotions.

If you are not ready for G&C yet, I suggest you try a controlled breathing exercise. Begin by closing your eyes. Inhale deeply for a count of four, hold for a count of four, exhale for a count of four, and hold for a count of four.  Perform this two or three times a day.

Let me know if this helps you!


Monday, August 12, 2013

Barbra from Ohio

I don't think my lady parts look like other ladies' lady parts. What should I do?


Dear Barbra,

Uh, maybe you should ask your gyno and not this witch.


Sunday, August 11, 2013

Anonymous from Dallas, TX

Hi, I have been seeing a guy on and off for the last four months. I really like him and I think about him daily. He is very private and keeps his emotions to himself. To him, we are just friends even though we are intimate and act like more than friends when we are together. I am very confused. I don't know what we have or what we are, and everything he does and says has a lot of power over me and my emotions. Some days he'll be really sweet and caring, and other days he will disappear and won't communicate. I understand he is a very ambitious, hard working, and busy man, but if he truly wanted something more with me, he would make the effort to talk to me or spend time with me. I'm tired of being on this emotional roller coaster. I either need a love spell to make him commit and fall completely for me, or a spell to make myself forget him, move on, and be independent and happy. Could you please help me?


Dear Anonymous,

Have you ever seen the movie He's Just Not That Into You? There is a fantastic line in the movie: "If a dude isn't calling you when he says he will, or making sure you know that he's dating you, then you already have your answer. Stop making excuses for him; his actions are screaming the truth: he's just not that into you."

Dump him, mourn your loss, and find someone new!


Saturday, August 10, 2013

Ben from Nevada

Do you know Dumbledore?


Dear Ben,

Of course I do... he was just over last night for tea and crumpets!


Friday, August 9, 2013

Amy from Westland, MI

I have this pendant on the end of a chain. My friend was using it to talk to spirits and ask them questions. She became afraid of it and left it with me. I want to know what it's called. I really need to know.


Dear Amy,

Your friend used your pendant as a pendulum. The pendulum is a simple tool used for communicating and/or gaining guidance from the astral/spiritual world.

As to why your friend freaked out, I can only guess that she did not like the feeling of the spirit she was communicating with.

Cleanse your pendant with the smoke from sage or lavender before wearing it again.


Thursday, August 8, 2013

Walter from Phoenix, AZ

I have a webcam on my other computer and it seems to be picking up two small people in black with pointed hats outside of my gate. What would you call these guys? Only my webcam can pick up the picture; I cannot see them myself!


Dear Walter,

It sounds as if you are seeing two spirits living around your home. The reason you can see them on the webcam and not in person is because it takes longer for their energy to dissipate on camera than on person. 

Take pictures if you can!


Wednesday, August 7, 2013

Glynda from Lake Ridge, VA

Are you a good-ah witch or a bad-ah witch?


Dear Glynda,

I'm a good-ah witch unless you mess with my family. And then the Wicked Witch from the Oz movies ain't got nothing on me!


Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Samantha from Star Valley, WY

How can I lose weight really fast?


Dear Samantha,

The Atkins diet. My best friends went on the Atkins diet and had AMAZING results the first two to three months. But you have to follow it exactly in order for it to work.

Citrine is a gemstone that has been known to help with weight loss, and red jasper helps break bad habits. Personally, I would want a mala of citrine and red jasper to help me to reach my weight loss goal. It is also believed that the herb red clover can help suppress your appetite when used as a tea. However, it also makes you more fertile, so when you're drinking the tea, no loving from your man!


Monday, August 5, 2013

Jasmin from Bayside, NY

Hi, I may sound crazy or weird, but I have been watching lot of vampire series and doing research on them. Do they still exist in today's world?


Dear Jasmin,

Nope. Let's talk about your use of the word "still." Vampires have never existed and will never exist.


Sunday, August 4, 2013


Dear Readers,

You've probably noticed I refer people to their doctors if I feel they may have clinical depression.  Why do I do that?  Because according to Depression Perception, more than 22% of Americans suffer from/with depression.

The Mayo Clinic defines clinical depression as: 
Depression ranges in seriousness from mild, temporary episodes of sadness to severe, persistent depression. Doctors use the term "clinical depression" to describe the more severe form of depression also known as "major depression" or "major depressive disorder." 

For a diagnosis of clinical depression, you must meet the symptom criteria spelled out in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). The DSM is a guidebook used to diagnose mental illness in the United States.

Clinical depression symptoms may include: 

  • Depressed mood most of the day, nearly every day 
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in most activities 
  • Significant weight loss or gain 
  • Sleeping too much or not being able to sleep nearly every day 
  • Slowed thinking or movement that others can see 
  • Fatigue or low energy nearly every day 
  • Feelings of worthlessness or inappropriate guilt 
  • Loss of concentration or indecisiveness 
  • Recurring thoughts of death or suicide 

To meet the criteria for clinical depression (called major depression in the DSM), you must have five or more of the above symptoms over a two-week period. At least one of the symptoms must be either a depressed mood or a loss of interest or pleasure. Keep in mind, some types of depression may not fit this strict definition. 

Clinical depression causes noticeable disruptions in daily life, such as work, school, or social activities. It can affect people of any age or sex, including children. It isn't the same as depression caused by a loss (such as the death of a loved one), substance abuse, or a medical condition such as a thyroid disorder. 

Listen up, readers, depression is a serious illness and too many people suffer from this debilitating disease without ever getting treatment. To understand more about what it feels like to experience depression, please read this funny, yet honest, blog by Hyperbole and a Half.

When you have a headache, you take medicine. When you have a cold, you take medicine. When you have an infection, you take medicine. When you have depression, your brain is sick and it, too, NEEDS medical attention. If you suspect you are suffering from depression, please see your primary care physician to find out if counseling and/or medication can help. 


Saturday, August 3, 2013

Mike from Lake Ridge, VA

My dad tells me my cousin is a witch, and he sent me a newspaper article with an interview in it about her being a witch. I would like to talk to her about it, but do not know how to bring it up. Do witches like to talk about being witches?


Dear Mike,

Most witches do like to talk about being witches. If she did an interview that was published, that's a great conversation starter. P.S. I'm hoping you want to talk to her out of curiosity and not out of some disrespectful idea you might have of witchcraft.


Friday, August 2, 2013

Jessie from Portsmouth

Hey, I've been a practicing witch for about a year now. Lately, I've been seeing a guy. We have a lot of fun together, always happy and laughing. The trouble is when we're apart, he's REALLY hung up on an ex-girlfriend. They broke up ages ago, and she's already over him. Could you suggest a spell to encourage his feelings for me, to help cleanse his ex's presence, and develop a sexual relationship into an emotional one?


Dear Jessie,

No, spells like that don't work. He has to want to let go of his ex-girlfriend and is obviously holding onto his feelings for her for a reason. How do you know that he is still hung up on her when you two aren't together? It could be that you are the one keeping that relationship alive with your jealousy.


Thursday, August 1, 2013

Trina from Fruita, CO

Recently, I have decided to use a personality changing spell on myself. I just want to know if there are any risks I should be well aware of or any advice that I can have to use when I use this spell.


Dear Trina,

There is no such thing as a personality changing spell. Changing your personality requires honesty, hard work, and TIME. The more important question would be why do you want to change your personality?