Welcome to Ask-A-Witch. Please feel free to explore our previous answers and advice, but we are no longer answering new questions. We hope you enjoy the information provided and wish you all a very witchy day!

Thursday, December 25, 2014

Happy Holidays!

The Ask-A-Witch team and the employees of 13 Magickal Moons want to wish you a happy and blessed holiday season, no matter how you celebrate!

13 Magickal Moons will be open for regular shopping hours for the remainder of the holiday season. Stop by to pick up something special for yourself!

Christmas: Closed
Friday, December 26: 12PM - 5:30PM
Saturday, December 27: 11AM - 5:30 PM
Sunday - Tuesday (28-30): 12PM - 5:30 PM
New Year's Eve and New Year's Day: 12PM - 5:30 PM

Sunday, December 21, 2014

Blessed Yule

Yule/Winter Solstice is celebrated during winter, the darkest, coldest time of the year. European traditions celebrate this holiday with holly, evergreens, bayberry, and the Yule log. In Native American traditions, Yule is a time of waiting, darkness, defeat, and trouble. Like their Celtic brethren, the Native American people wait for spring to bring back warmth and light. Since the weather is generally unpleasant, families often find themselves in close quarters with one another. This makes Yule the perfect time to celebrate family, friends, and togetherness.

Decorate your altar with red and green, using evergreen branches and holly berries. Burn incense reminiscent of home and family, like cinnamon, bay, nutmeg, and allspice. Since light is scarce and fleeting during winter, light lots of candles and build a fire to push back the dark. Enjoying hearty warm meals and good conversations are great ways to celebrate the closeness of family. Sharing pleasant memories while gathered before a roaring fire will make the wait for spring go faster. Meditations on the importance of family are appropriate at this time of year.


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Wednesday, December 17, 2014

Open Yule Ritual

Blessed Yule!

Do you live in the Northern Virginia area? Are you tired of celebrating the sabbats on your own? Do you just want to celebrate with a great community of like-minded individuals? Then come celebrate the sabbats at 13 Magickal Moons!

Wednesday, December 17, 7:30 pm
*Ritual will be held rain or shine!*

Merry Meet! Come and join in the celebration of the next turning of the wheel. 13 Magickal Moons is hosting an Open Yule Ritual on Wednesday, December 17 at 7:30 pm during Tea Night (6-9 pm every Wednesday). Join us for an evening of magick and mystery! Bring a dish to share and be sure to dress accordingly for the weather!!!

Saturday, December 13, 2014

Brenda from Modesto, CA

I recently found out my best friend has leukemia. I am still new at this but I do know I can't heal her. But I would like protect her, ease the pain, and complications from treatment.


Dear Brenda,

One of the best ways to send energy to someone you love is to spend a few minutes each day thinking about that person, sending them all the love, protection, healing, strength, and courage energy you can.

You could also make her a little bag for her to carry with her during the treatments. Here are some suggestions:

Bag: blue, green, tan, white, or in her favorite color
Herbs: chamomile, lavender, sage, marigold, St. Johns Wort, echinacea
Gemstones: bloodstone, amethyst, tiger's eye, blue lace agate

I will keep your best friend in my thoughts.



Friday, December 12, 2014

Juice from Jacksonville, FL

Do solar and lunar eclipses have a special meaning during the solstices and equinoxes?


Dear Juice,

A lunar eclipse is nothing more than the Earth's shadow covering part or all of the moon. A solar eclipse is much different since it is the moon blocking the sun. I believe having a ritual honoring the God and Goddess during a solar eclipse can be very powerful no matter the time of year.

Very nice question by the way!


Wednesday, December 10, 2014

Ashley from West Bridgewater, MA

I've been studying the practices of being a green witch for only about a month or so now. I've been reading piles of books and online blogs and articles and websites. One piece of information has come up time and time again and it's that sleeping with a bay leaf under my pillow would induce psychic/prophetic dreams. Now, I already study dream analysis. I keep a journal by my bed at night and whenever I wake up through out the night, I write down key words for me to research and analyze better in the morning. I have a tendency to have psychic dreams once in a while as it is, so reading this so many times, I figured why not give it a try? The problem is, every time I've tried it, I don't recall any dreams at all! It's really bothersome that it seems as if the bay leaves are taking away my dreams. Any insight? Thank you.


Dear Ashley,

It could just be that your energy and the energy radiating from the bay leaf just don't mesh. You're already having psychic dreams, so there is no reason for you to use the bay leaf.


Tuesday, December 9, 2014

Rebecca from Saskatoon, Canada

I have a strange question. Haha. Um, do you have the power to delete memories? A person or a moment, for example. If so, how would I go about doing that?


Dear Rebecca,

There is no way, to the best of my knowledge, to delete or erase a memory. To be honest with you... forgotten or repressed memories have a way of harming us more than the actual memory it/themselves.


Sunday, December 7, 2014

Elroy from High Point, NC

Other witches are doing spirit readings on me 24 hours a day and 7 days a week. If you did a spirit reading on me, what would that spirit reading reveal? What would happen if your spirit reading energy came into contact with the other witches' spirit reading energies around me? Please help me with this question. Thank you.


Dear Elroy,

I'm not going to do a "spirit reading" on you so it will reveal absolutely nothing. For future reference, you need to be careful about who you give permission to "read" you because not everyone who claims to be a witch is a good person, and the information they obtain from reading you could be used to manipulate you.

Now, if I had done a reading on you and came across the energy of another person doing a reading on you, it could confuse the message because your energies would be intermingled for a short period of time.


Friday, December 5, 2014

Brittany from Woodbridge, VA

I am new to the Craft, and so far the books that I have read haven't been able to answer to my question. I am hoping you can help. Can I have more than one altar set up in my home? I would like to put my main altar with all my stuff in my bedroom, but I would also like to put a smaller simpler altar up in my living room for when I am in my living room and need to help a friend or family member with something small or just to give thanks. Is that possible or is too much?


Dear Brittany,

Absolutely YES you can have more than one altar in your home. One altar should be set up just for your personal everyday workings. The other one could be set up as a home/family protection altar, which should include an item on it for each member of the family (both two- and four-legged), and can be used to help family/friends who have asked for your help. 

Enjoy and have fun setting up your new altar!


Wednesday, December 3, 2014

Jose from California

I became a witch two months ago and my question is how old do you have to be to read tarot cards and do spells?


Dear Jose,

There really is no age limit for reading/using tarot cards or doing spells. HOWEVER I would recommend that you focus on yourself and your spiritual practice instead of using them for/with/on other people.


Monday, December 1, 2014

Sean from Travels, Worldwide

I spent the whole day casting, and at the end after blowing out my candle, I spilled the wax. It left me with sense of foreboding. What would be a good thing to do at this point? Thanks.


Dear Sean,

Clean up the wax and continue to have positive thoughts about the casting you performed. The energy your focused and sent out won't be diminished just because a little wax spilled.


Saturday, November 29, 2014

Zach from Ingalls, IN

What's a spell for freezing time or for freezing people?


Dear Zach,

There are none. Going to school for movie special effects is the closest you're going to get in the real world ; - )


Thursday, November 27, 2014

Tiffany from Crown Point, IN

I would like to know if you can cast a spell for me to become a beautiful singer? I am 13, just so you know:) The spells I would like to cast are a beauty spell, an eye spell, and an immortal spell, if that's possible. I would also like to know why the spells I do don't work. My grandmother says witchcraft is not real, so is it? I was wondering if you can also do a werewolf curse on me and change my eye color? If so, I would love my eye color to be a shade of yellow like a wolf's eye color? Thank you sooo much! ;)


Dear Tiffany,

Honey, the reason your spells aren't working is because the spells you are casting are impossible. In real Wicca/Witchcraft, magick is energy and not nearly as cool or wondrous as what you see in the movies.


Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Nena from Victorville, CA

Hi I'm Nena and I'm 20 years old. I was wondering if you knew what I should do for this to stop happening to me. Ever since I was little, bad things, negative things, happened to me.

I would wake up seeing a huge black shadow shaped as a man wearing a coat and an old-school hat. Watching me. I could feel all the negative energy coming from him. Or there were many times I would wake up and get paralyzed. I would hear growls and see flying shadows on my ceiling. One time I woke up with a girl laying on top of me. I didn't see her face, but I saw her hair. Also there were a couple times where I feel my bed sink in; I had my legs up and something put its hands on my knees and was just looking at me, or it laid behind me, wrapped its arm around me, rocked me three times very aggressively, then kissed my forehead a couple times. There was a time it was sitting where my feet were, facing me and whispering "I'm tired of waiting. Wake up." Then I got paralyzed. Mind you, this is all bad because I could feel all the negative, evil, twisted energy from them.

I'm tired of always feeling like I'm being watched and tormented. One time, while laying on my left side, a hand grabbed my neck and started choking me, waking me up. I tried grabbing the hand off of my neck. I got its thumb - it was big with a pointed nail. Sometimes when I get paralyzed, I scream for my mom, but she never hears me. I don't know why.

No, I don't want to hear it's sleep paralysis; I know it's not. My whole family believes me. We all have "gifts." I just don't like it because my gifts only have to do with things that are negative.

Do you have any advice about what I should do? Something I should put in my room, anything? I grew up in a Christian home, but my mom knew we have witchiness in us because my great aunt and great great grandma were pure real deal witches. She blames them for what happens to us, that they "opened a door " and "cursed our blood line." Ever since I was little, I always wanted to be a witch. I was always interested, fascinated. Now maybe it's time I get answers from someone who is a witch. Thank you for reading, and I hope I hear from you.


Dear Nena,

You need to do a banishing ritual/spell right away. Please read my response to Brittney from Las Vegas for a list of things you need.

After you perform the banishing, you'll need to put up some protective measures around you and your home. Please read my response to Star from Europe for useful hints.

Please check back in with me and let me know you're ok.

Thursday, November 20, 2014

Kristina from Frisco, TX

I found a marking on a concrete path recently and would like to know what it means. I've done some research and can't find its meaning. Hoping you can help. Happy to send the picture.


Dear Kristina,

You'll definitely need to send a picture!


Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Tina from the United States

Are spells people say can make you a mermaid, give you animal shape shifting abilities, or give you powers real? If so, can you give me some? How do I become Wiccan?

How do you make spells work? What websites give true spells? How do you do magic?


Dear Tina,

Nope... there are no real shape shifting spells. No mermaid, werewolf, vampire, etc. spells.

Please visit our Advice for New Witches to learn more about becoming Wiccan.


Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Jennifer from Virginia

I want to do witchcraft. To do witchcraft, do I have to be a Wiccan?


Dear Jennifer,

Not necessarily, but witches don't "do" witchcraft. Witchcraft is a beautiful spiritual practice and belief. To get yourself started, please visit our Advice for New Witches page.


Monday, November 17, 2014

Anna from Toronto, Canada

So there is this man that I am absolutely in love with, and I have known that I loved him since I first met him. We have been in each other's lives since we were probably 10 or 11 years old and have been best friends since then as well. We have been in and out of one another's lives throughout the years, and no matter how far we are apart, something ends up making our paths cross time and time again. As of this summer, we decided that it was time for us to actually start a serious romantic relationship. However, as it always seems to happen, shortly after we got together, he had to move away for work. Now, I don't want you to think I'm looking for a spell to bring him back to where I am. Fate has a way of bringing our paths back together time and time again so I know he will be back. In the meantime, we are comfortable in our current long distance relationship. However, as of late I've been thinking about how I could go about doing a good fortune spell for him. Could you give me any advice? I'm not imagining anything exuberant, I just wish for him to be successful in all his endeavors. Any advice would be appreciated! Blessed be.


Dear Anna,

IF your friend has given his permission for you to do a little something for him, then absolutely it's a wonderful idea. Please read my response to Obianuju from Nigeria for some useful correspondences.


Sunday, November 9, 2014

Amy from Dallas, TX

How do I get into someone else's body?


Dear Amy,

Uh... you don't.


Saturday, November 8, 2014

Kealhan from Sweden

Just to clarify, this is the first time I'm reaching out via cyberspace or in "reality" to the magic users of witchcraft for answers. My focus is in the magic of engineering, so I hope that my ignorance of your school of magic doesn't offend anybody here.

This is what I'm curious about: I have had dreams that later happened in real life later on. I can also see some witches' faces morph into what I call " spirit side."  I can make people sneeze by thinking about them sneezing really hard (like a sonar pulse).

My question to you is have you heard of these things before, and if so, do these phenomena have names? Best wishes.


Dear Kealhan,

The dreams you're having are called premonitions, meaning you are dreaming about future events.  I'm not sure what the morphing thing is all about.  As for the making people sneeze thing, that is you manipulating the energy around the other person. I'd be careful with that one because that is you exerting your authority/power over another person.

Best wishes!

Friday, November 7, 2014

Brianne from Woodbridge, VA

Sorry in advance - this will be a little weird for you to read. But I am just not enjoying sex, period. I have tried flings, one night stands, and even in relationships I am just not enjoying it. I really think something is wrong with me. Sometimes I have to be drunk and when I am drunk, my body will do fantastic sex; when I am sober, nothing. Its like I am super tense. Is it because I am not really into the guy or is my body that is broken? Thanks.


Dear Brianne,

Believe it or not, there are many women out there who experience the same thing. One thing you should do is go to your doctor and have a full physical done. There could be a medical reason for your lack of sexual enjoyment.

The fact that you are able to enjoy sex, or at least believe yourself to enjoy sex, while drunk could mean that you are super tense and inhibited when sober, which could mean that there could have been a sexual trauma in your past. For that, I would recommend you visit a counselor to help you with those issues.

Either way, maybe now is the time for you to focus on you and not worry about having sex right now. Don't have sex again until you are really, really into the person and have NOT been drinking.

Please go see a doctor and a counselor.


Thursday, November 6, 2014

Haley from Springfield, OH

Am I a werewolf? I was adopted, and my biological great grandfather was Finnish. The reason I'm asking is because I can feel I have an... understanding of dogs and cats? Or maybe that's just because I'm an empath.. Thank you for your time.


Dear Haley,

Yeah... you're not a werewolf... 'cause you know werewolves aren't real.  But you could be an empath.


Wednesday, November 5, 2014

Less from Phillipines

Hi! Are there any paper spells that I may use (a simple but effective spell using only paper without the use of candles)? I'm not that specific because I want to learn them all. Thank you!


Dear Less,

Paper spells for what purpose?


Tuesday, November 4, 2014

Gabriela from West Bridgewater, MA

Merry Meet. I have a very serious issue: we believe that my sister's ex has been working with a black magic witch (bad witch) because of what has been going on for a while now. The first proof that we (my family) has is when my sister moved back into her home (long story), she found an upside-down cross on a wall of one of her hallways. I am very new at witchcraft. Is there a possibility I would be able to fight against him/her (bad witch)? Do I need to have another witch involved instead due to me being a relative? What can I do to ease and stop all bad things happening to her and her family and perhaps other close family members?


Dear Gabriela,

No witch (Wiccan/Pagan practitioner) would use an upside-down cross because a cross is a Christian symbol.

Read the response we wrote to Chris from Auckland, New Zealand for additional suggestions.


Monday, November 3, 2014

Taylor from San Antonio, TX

Hello, I currently don't trust anyone to do a spell for me considering I have been ripped out of $1,200. I need to know a spell I can do that is not dangerous and is somewhat easy that will bring my ex-girlfriend back. She is currently in a relationship. I have done some spells but none of them worked. Maybe I did them wrong??? Please help.


Dear Taylor,

Never pay anyone to perform a spell for you! Most people who ask you for an outrageous amount of money for spells are nothing more than bottom feeding wastes of flesh... oh, and they're con artists to boot!

Try using the easy-to-do spell we wrote for Merlin from Camelot.

Your ex-girlfriend is an ex for a reason. Perhaps you should REALLY think about WHY the spells you perform aren't working. Maybe it's time to move on and find a new girlfriend.


Sunday, November 2, 2014

Evelyn from Athens, OH

I just moved into a dorm and I don't like the feel of it. I want to do a warding/protection spell, but I can't burn anything at all in the dorm. Do you know of any spells for protection/purifying/warding that don't require cleansing fire?


Dear Evelyn,

First let's starting with cleansing. Make a cleansing room spray using distilled water, a tablespoon of witch hazel astringent, lavender essential oil, and sage essential oil. This room spray will cleanse away any negative energy in your room and bring in positive energy as well.

Next, make a mojo bag to hang near the inside of your door. Use a small decorative bag in your favorite color. I would use herbs like lavender, sage, and rue. Also add one piece each of the gemstones black tourmaline and bloodstone. I also like to place an image of an eye to protect against people sending their negativity my way.

Once you have everything together, hold the bag in between the palms of your hands and say something like:

Lord and Lady, hear my plea
Safety and protection I ask of thee
Help me to create sacred space
Within the walls of this crazy place
Keep all the negative far from me
As I ask it, so make it be

Good luck, honey!


Saturday, November 1, 2014

David from Somonauk, IL

I performed a ritual to cleanse myself of the curse that was placed on a maternal ancestor and her decedents, of whom I am one. At the end of it, I went outside to dispose of some of the things from the ritual, and to my surprise, an owl made its presence known to me, which startled my a little. I have not heard an owl in the area that I live in years. Is this owl's presence significant to me and/or the ritual that I performed?


Dear David,

Yes, the owl's presence could be significant to you and your ritual.

Owls are sacred to Artemis, Athena, Cailleach, Hecate, Lakshmi, Minerva, and Ares. They also correspond with assertiveness, authority, defense, freedom, guardian, knowledge, magick, protection, and wisdom.

I would guess that your ritual was a HUGE success and the curse has been broken!

Great job!

Friday, October 31, 2014

Passing to Summerland Ritual for Samhain

Passing to Summerland

1 white taper candle (to represent NAME’s birth)
1 red taper candle (to represent NAME’s life)
1 black taper candle (to represent NAME’s death)
Bowl of salt (Earth)
Feather (Air)
Bowl of water (Water)
Candle (Fire)
White altar cloth

Chimes to begin ceremony

We are gathered here today to say our farewells to our beloved NAME, as s/he moves from this life into the next.  Death is a time for mourning our loss but also for celebrating the amazing life that NAME had. 

Casting the Circle
It is with open minds and open hearts that we cast our circle of protection and love.  For this brief moment, we are one, joined together by our love and our grief.  To you all I say welcome and blessed be.

Calling the Quarters

I call to the Guardians of the Watchtower of the East, the Essence of Air.  I ask that you join us as we say farewell to our beloved NAME.  May we always remember his/her gift of inspiring us to be more than we ever thought we could be.  We bid you blessings and welcome.

I call to the Guardians of the Watchtower of the South, the Essence of Fire.  I ask that you join us as we say farewell to our beloved NAME.  May we always remember the spark of life which was always present within him/her.  We bid you blessings and welcome.

I call to the Guardians of the Watchtower of the West, the Essence of Water.  I ask that you join us as we say farewell to our beloved NAME.  May we always remember to stay true to our emotions as NAME was always true to his/hers.  We bid you blessings and welcome.

I call to the Guardians of the Watchtower of the North, the Essence of Earth.  I ask that you join us as we say farewell to our beloved NAME.  Grant us the strength to grieve for our loss and except his/her passing.  We bid you blessings and welcome.

Invoke the God
Now do I call You to this our circle, Great God.  I call you as Lord of the Harvest, Lord of Death, Holder of the Keys, Lord of the Underworld; and I call you as the Comforter and Consoler, the Compassionate One Who leads us all to the Cauldron from which we are reborn.  Give welcome now to NAME, who comes to You in honor and humility to visit Your other lands for a while.

Invoke the Goddess
I call upon the Lady as Crone, She Who harvests all that lives, Who has taken NAME by the hand and led him/her into Summerland, there to rest, reflect, and rejoice in the company of the Goddess and the God until it is time for him/her to be born again to the circle.  For She is also the Mother of all things and the Lady of rebirth, and She shall surely grant NAME the gift of life again when the Wheel has turned.

All creatures die, but first they live and love.  To fulfill love, one must meet, and remember, and love again.  But in order to meet again, one must be born.  Before one can be born, there must be love.  And that is all the mystery.  May NAME be born again to the circle.

Farewell to the Goddess
Lady, thank you for the presence of NAME in our lives.  Hold him/her close to you, love him/her, and walk with him/her in the Summerland until it is time for him/her to be born again.

Farewell to the God
Lord, thank you for the life and joy you have shared with your friend.  Let him/her find reunion with those who have gone before, and walk with NAME in the Summerland until it is time for him/her to return to this world.

Dismissing the Quarters

I thank you Guardians of the Watchtower of the North, the Essence of Earth. Guide and protect the spirit of NAME as s/he journeys to the Summerland.  We bid you farewell and blessed be.

I thank you Guardians of the Watchtower of the South, the Essence of Fire. Guide and protect the spirit of NAME as s/he journeys to the Summerland.  We bid you farewell and blessed be.

I thank you Guardians of the Watchtower of the West, the Essence of Water. Guide and protect the spirit of NAME as s/he journeys to the Summerland.  We bid you farewell and blessed be.

I thank you Guardians of the Watchtower of the East, the Essence of Air. Guide and protect the spirit of NAME as s/he journeys to the Summerland.  We bid you farewell and blessed be.

Opening the Circle
The circle is open but never broken.  To one another and especially to NAME, we say: “Merry did we meet, and merry did we part, and merry shall we meet again!”

Thursday, October 30, 2014

Gabby from Chantilly, VA

Lately, I've been feeling really disconnected from my supplies - gemstones, herbs, candles, oils, etc. I used to be able to feel the currents of their intent and work with them fluidly. But now everything feels so disjointed in my spellwork and rituals. I've tried cleansing and recharging, but they still don't feel...right. I know I've been pretty stressed out lately, but I'm not sure if I should just work on clearing out my own internal noise or if I should look into getting new supplies too.


Dear Gabby,

Definitely work on clearing out your own internal noise. Feeling stressed out, over worked, under played, and disconnect can leave us feeling disconnected from almost every aspect of our life... especially our spirituality!

Good luck!

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Samhain Ritual at 13 Magickal Moons

Blessed Samhain!

Wednesday, October 29, 7:30 pm 
*Ritual will be held rain or shine!*

Merry Meet! Come and join in the celebration of the next turning of the wheel. 13 Magickal Moons is hosting an Open Samhain Ritual on Wednesday, October 29 at 7:30 pm during Tea Night (6-9 pm every Wednesday). Join us for an evening of magick and mystery! Bring a dish to share and be sure to dress accordingly for the weather!!! Costumes are welcome! Please no children under the age of 12.

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Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Zoe from Toronto, Ontario

Hi, I'll make this quick. I'm 18 and I think I'm a witch or something. I have no idea. It sounds crazy, but please tell me what you think. My whole life I have always had a special connection with animals and children. It's like animals are submissive around me. People around me notice. When I was younger, I was camping and we saw this injured moose. Everyone was taking pictures from a distance, but I ran up! My grandparents were terrified it was going to hurt me or charge me, but it let me pet it. If anyone else came close, it would try to get up and look at them aggressively. That is just one example. Another is when I concentrate I can make a flame rise! Like rise very high! My mom thought it was amazing. Please, maybe I'm paranoid, but I just want to know what I am or if I'm something at all. It would be amazing if you got back to me soon. Thank you.


Dear Zoe,

It sounds more like you are an animal communicator and not necessarily a witch. A witch is someone who practices Wicca, Witchcraft, etc.  As for the candle flame, that is more connected with energy work than anything else.



Friday, October 24, 2014

Jake from Melbourne, Australia

Hey, Witch! I have for seven years believed I am a therian. I have been told I have the spirit of a wolf. I was wondering if you could find a way to actually physically transform or even mentally leave my body and transfer into a wolf's. I would actually pay you all a large sum of money. Any ideas? Can the group of you come up with a legitimate way? I have heard of all the usual crap that is made up by 7-14 year olds and I need something that works for an 18-year-old kid. Anything's appreciated, thanks.


Dear Jake,

As much as my bank account would love for you to pay me a "large sum of money," I'm going to have to pass up the offer.

The only real way for you to become a wolf would be through deep meditative/trance work or astral travel. To the best of my knowledge there is no way to physically transform into a wolf or any other creature.


Thursday, October 23, 2014

Crepusclar from New York, NY

Hi, I began my journey toward Wicca/Pagan just this past May. I have an extremely strong need for nature and animals in my life, so I believe that this may be the right path for me. In this short period of time, I have read many books to learn and have enjoyed every word. I have collected most of my tools, harvested my own herbs for incense, and have even made my own wand. My problem is when I start to commit and plan for a ritual, I feel kind of weird. Like, I'm a crazy person for doing this (no offense). I am so interested in doing this, but I can't seem to take the plunge. Would you have any suggestions for getting past this feeling?


Dear Crepusclar,

We just answered a question very similar to yours not to long ago. Please read my response to Kaida from Virginia for my response.

You might also want to look into open circles or gatherings in your local area and participate in some of their rituals. A Witches' Voice should have a listing of current happenings in your area.

Good luck!


Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Martin from Canberra, Australia

I have had a hard time of it over the past few years. I got involved with prescription medication. I think it has permanently damaged my brain and body. It has also affected my work and family relationship. If I had one wish it would be to go back to a time when I was happier and healthier or to change my past so that it does not affect my present or future. I am new to this and don't want to pay lot of money to someone I don't know. I really need help as my life is a mess. Any help or advice would be much appreciated.


Dear Martin,

You shouldn't pay a lot of money, or even a little money, to anyone to help make magickal changes in your life. The kinds of changes you are, and will be facing, take time, patience, and a whole lot of courage and determination.

There are no spells for time traveling or erasing the past. But you might want to look into spells like health and healing, emotional healing, strength and courage, or even protection or self binding. These spells could help you deal with many of the traumas I'm sure you have experienced.

You might also want to look into alternative healing therapies such as gemstone healing, Reiki, spiritual counseling, or yoga.

Good luck honey!


Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Obianuju from Nigeria

Please, I need your help. I love my boyfriend and he is the one I want to marry, but he has no money. I have tried everything possible for money to come for us to settle down, but nothing has happened. Please, I need you to help me win a lottery. Thanks.


Dear Obianuju,

Girl, if I could cast a spell to win the lottery I would be living a much different life. Lottery spells usually don't work anyway because almost everyone who plays feels they have the "need" to win.

Just because I can't help you win the lottery doesn't mean that I can't give you some advice on drawing money/prosperity to you and/or him.

Carry around these gemstones: pyrite, green aventurine, bloodstone, green calcite, herkimer diamond, jade, red jasper, lodestone, malachite, peridot, green quartz, tiger's eye, and turquoise.

Put two or three of the following herbs in a gold or green bag: basil, blackberry, chamomile, red clover, jasmine, sage, or vervain.

Carry a copy of the 10 of pentacles/wheels/disks/coins tarot card.

Good luck and may the prosperity Gods and Goddesses be with you and your boyfriend!


Monday, October 20, 2014

Elizabeth from England

I am so confused and trying to find out who I really am. I have always felt a spiritual connection and knew I was different. When I was younger, there was a guy at work who constantly used to annoy me to the point I was nearly in tears with temper. One day, he was reversing his car outside work and nearly ran me over whilst I was waiting for my lift. He laughed out of the window, and I shouted over "you're going to crash in that car one of these days!" That night, he crashed into three cars (no one was hurt). Then another day, he was boasting about how tough he was, and I said "you're going to get beat up one of these days." He came in the following Monday black and blue after being beaten up by two guys!! Then another day, he said something really horrible whilst doing his hair in a mirror in the office. I said in a rage "I hope your hair falls out!!" Within a week, he started with alopecia and most of his hair came out!!! After this, I started to freak him out and he didn't really speak to me after that. Obviously I've grown up alot since then and would never respond so negatively in an argument now, but it did scare me, and I've always been afraid I may hurt someone I love. Is this normal?


Dear Elizabeth,

I'm sorry, but I think maybe karma was punishing that prick and you were just picking up on it. Hopefully he learned a lesson about treating anyone with such a lack of respect.

Now... having said that... it sounds like you learned a valuable lesson yourself. Words have power and words spoken in rage are even more powerful.


Sunday, October 19, 2014

Don from Lansing, MI

I am hopeful this will reach someone who cares. I am a spirit sensitive; I don't throw this out there because of the obvious. Two days ago, I stayed at a hotel in Lansing, MI for two nights. It was a holiday and I wanted some time to myself. When I entered the room, it took about two hours to feel this presence. It's a child and I feel so bad for it. I could sense it's caution and fear. It was abused and now is there waiting. I left the TV on at night to keep it occupied, but it shut it off around 3 am. The next night it came to me in a dream. I saw it as a doll, broken and disfigured, being thrown to the ground. I cried because it does not understand what happened to it. It knows I am not like the rest of them. I want to go back and help free this poor soul, but I don't know how. Can you help this child?


Dear Don,

Because you are spirit sensitive, I recommend you go back to the hotel and invite the child to come to your home. With time, love, patience, and understanding s/he will move on to the Summerland on their own.

I will light a candle on the altar for both of you. Please write in again and let me know what happens.

Much love and respect,


Saturday, October 18, 2014

Danette from Modesto, CA

I tried to reply, but the site was restricted. I asked the question about suicide binding...

I want to thank you for all your advice. You are right to presume that I have taken all the necessary steps possible to help my daughter. She has been seeing a therapist two times a week for the last six months. She has seen a psychiatrist in the past, and presently she is scheduled to see one twice a week along with her therapist three times a week. She is also on medication. With all this in mind, her father and I have recently become aware that she is a cutter. Here is the situation in a nutshell. She is 17, and her father and I have been separated for 10 years. I feel that she has not overcome the feelings of that time. At the time her father left, my mother passed away. So needless to say I was not there for her emotionally. I tried my best, but ended up in therapy for two years. Her father left the kids for about a year with no visitation. All she (seven years old) knew was one day we were a family and the next day we weren't. I have been trying my best to make things right in our relationship. She still feels a void with her father. She lives with him at the moment and has for the past three years. I lost my job three years ago and have not had a steady enough job to provide a home for us. I took her out to lunch yesterday and we talk for over three hours. The bottom line, as she put it, is that she hurt herself mainly to get a rise out of her father. She wants him desperately to pay attention to her. He has been deemed as having a narcissistic personality by my daughter's therapist. He has not gone with her to therapy at all. Not one session. My therapist told me I had to make a decision. "Accept him or walk away." There is no changing him if he doesn't even acknowledge his behavior. I hurt for my daughter. I know what she is going though in that aspect. But my hands are tied because he is her father. I have set up family therapy for her and I have asked him to come. My fingers are crossed that he will come. Again, that you so much for your advice... With blessings, thank you.


Dear Danette,

Thank you for giving us an update on your situation.

Honestly, it sounds like you should perform a spell to help you find a more stable job so your daughter can move back in with you.  Please take a look at our response to Anonymous from VA for some information on job hunting.

It also sounds like you are doing all the right things and at the end of the day that is what really matters. Keep doing what you are doing to help your daughter. I strongly recommend that you look into Reiki healing. You might even think about becoming a Reiki Master yourself... or hell... taking the classes with your daughter so both of you can be Reiki Masters.

Another suggestion I have is for you to speak with the counselor about a form of healing called Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).

EMDR is a comprehensive, integrative psychotherapy approach. It contains elements of many effective psychotherapies in structured protocols that are designed to maximize treatment effects. These include psychodynamic, cognitive behavioral, interpersonal, experiential, and body-centered therapies. EMDR psychotherapy is an information processing therapy and uses an eight phase approach to address the experiential contributors of a wide range of pathologies. It attends to the past experiences that have set the groundwork for pathology, the current situations that trigger dysfunctional emotions, beliefs and sensations, and the positive experience needed to enhance future adaptive behaviors and mental health. [From the EMDR Institute]

As for your ex... there is no cure or treatment for narcissistic personalities. No amount of begging, pleading, bartering, blackmailing, etc. is going to change his mind if he decides not to go to family counseling. He's a selfish dick and I hope one day your daughter will understand that his failure as a father and a husband is HIS failure and not hers.



Friday, October 17, 2014

Anonymous from Blacksburg, VA

Is there a spell to cause a storm to brew?


Dear Anonymous,

Native Americans used to perform rain dances. Try looking into that!


Thursday, October 16, 2014

Linda from Fredricksburg, VA

How can one incorporate ancestor reverence into a daily practice aside from the annual Samhain festival? I have found this practice to be absent from most Wicca and Witchcraft traditions available to a seeker. How can I honor my own heritage and blood ties in the Craft? Thank you so much for your help in this matter.


Dear Linda,

This is a great question and pretty perfect timing, considering Samhain is right around the corner!

If possible, place images of your ancestors on or near your altar and say a prayer to them in the mornings asking for guidance and protection, and again in the evenings thanking them for their guidance and protection.

Keeping fresh fruit or vegetables on your altar are also great ways to honor your ancestors. Once the fruit or vegetables start to decay/rot (usually within a few days) place them outdoors for the animals to eat. The nice thing about doing this is that it requires you to pay attention to your altar.

You can also honor your ancestors by using incense (loose, stick, or cone), feathers, or candles.


Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Amaya from Texas

Hi!:) Thank you so much for reading! I have been very desperate for something, but I'm really scared to try anything. I'm a Christian and was wondering if there were any white magic spells or anything pure that will make me have the ability to freeze things with my hands or mind and not have anything to do with black magic? Also, is there any spell to change my brown eyes to green? I'm 13 years old and want to be able to have ice ability and green eyes really badly. Thank you so much!


Dear Amaya,

I'm sorry sweetie, but although it would be super cool, magick like that just doesn't exist in the real world.


Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Bryan from the Netherlands

Can you turn people into spirits?


Dear Bryan,

Only if I killed them, which is not on any to-do list I have!


Monday, October 13, 2014

Zee from San Antonio, TX

After finishing an intense thyme purification bath, I found a cockroach circling my bathtub. I grabbed him and placed him outside. Is there possibly a meaning for this cockroach appearing after my cleansing bath (good or bad)? Did I handle the cockroach appropriately?


Dear Zee,

Cockroaches in the house can be a really bad sign for the house itself and not of magickal significance. I would seriously have your home checked by an exterminator!


Sunday, October 12, 2014

Liz from Medford, NJ

Would a binding spell I read about on your site work if an evil, calculating woman came into our lives and broke up my marriage and therefore our family? I have known my husband since we were 14, married at 20, and although we had our ups and downs, we were best friends, lovers, partners, and parents. She was just divorced by her husband who is a psychiatrist in our area, and she picked my husband up at a bar during the recession of 2008. He still takes care of me financially, worries about me, but can't seem to break away from her. I met her accidently once, and she is a very determined, strong woman who laughed at me when I told her not to consider me a friend. I wish her no harm; I just want her to go away; maybe meet a well-to-do doctor who can treat her the way she is used to being treated. My husband drained all our savings, and he is just not the boy/man I knew. Something is not right. Please help me.


Dear Liz,

A binding or banishing could work on him, but it doesn't guarantee he will come back to you.

Prayer doesn't hurt either. No matter what religion you practice, talk to the Divine and let Him/Her/Them know what it is you want.

Keep me updated!


Saturday, October 11, 2014

Layne from Temecula, CA

So I don't know how exactly to ask this, but I'll try my best.

I've recently taken up meditation because I heard it is a good way to relax and leave one's troubles behind. I have been having weird experiences. Like whispers down the hall when the lights are off, or the hall and my room feeling very uneasy, or the bed feels like it shakes slightly, but that might be my imagination. One night after my meditation, I went to sleep the same as normal, but I felt my bed shake kind of like I fell back into my body. I sat up on the edge of my bed and I felt something grip my leg and pull me off the bed. I crawled to the middle of my room and looked under the bed and saw angry red eyes and sharp and jagged teeth. There was nothing else though, no body, just darker than normal darkness. The entire room felt uneasy and I didn't feel safe. I felt something grab my ankles again and it dragged me into the hall and to the back room that nobody uses because it always feels uneasy and weird. Before I was pulled into the room, I heard the voice of a woman that grabbed my hand gently. She said "It'll be okay. I have you," and pulled me up the hall a little. I blinked and I was laying on the ground in the hall, scratches and redness where I felt like I was grabbed. The woman's voice was so calming and peaceful. Can you please explain what has been happening? The uneasy feeling has only gotten worse, but nothing has happened that extreme so far.


Dear Layne,

You need to do a banishing in your home. For directions, please read my response to  Brittney from Las Vegas. After doing the banishing, burn some lavender or sweetgrass in your home to bring in positive energy.

Let me know how things go!


Friday, October 10, 2014

Lost Witch from California

I can't decide on my path, but I feel very connected to the moon. Any suggested path?


Dear Lost Witch,

Many people start with a Celtic or Egyptian Witchcraft since both honor the Moon (Goddess) and the Sun (God).

There is no reason to choose only one path. You could always choose what you love about different religions/path and merge them into a path you created for yourself.

Best of luck, darlin'.


Thursday, October 9, 2014

Chris from Menifee, CA

I've been following this site for a while now, reading other people's questions and the responses, and I've been drawn to the Craft since a friend introduced it to me. I've search high and low for a place to begin, but have been discouraged by certain family members and because of deep Christian conditioning. It never really felt right to be a Christian; my faith in it only dropped as I grew older. I'm now 19 and keep feeling drawn to the Craft. Any advice on how to start and how to escape the Christian programming?


Dear Chris,

Please refer to our Advice for New Witches page to help you get started.

As for escaping the Christian programming, that is much easier said then done. It takes a lot of time and patience to undo all the negative programming we've had for years and I'm not just talking about Christian programming either.

Once you have formed a bond with the God and Goddess, which takes time and practice, you'll find the negative programming will start to ease away on its own.

If you find that you are having difficulty studying or practicing on your own, then find a group in your local area.

Blessed be and namaste!


Wednesday, October 8, 2014

Joel from Virginia

I made a deal with a very powerful demon to be reborn as my child (she asked to be my first born). My child is now almost 1 year of age. I want her powers to be dormant so she can have a normal life. Is there any spell or suggestions you can give me that will help?


Dear Joel,

WTF. Why would you make a deal with a "powerful demon" to be reborn as your child? It just seems like you'd be asking for a shitload of trouble.

I have no idea how to bind a demon's power because I don't believe in demons.