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Tuesday, September 30, 2014


Ask-A-Witch started off as a little advice email program designed to help those looking for spiritual advice and now look at us... Over 100,000 views and almost 800 questions later!  Thank you to each person who submitted a question (even you crazy ones!) and to all of you readers out there!


Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Rix from Northern Colorado

I wasn't sure this site/blog was legit, but when I saw your response to Mace from North Carolina, I knew you (all) were serious and legitimate. I have read your FAQ, and the "Advice for New Witches" page; additionally, I read the "Meet the Ask A Witch Team" bios. Though my story is different (like everyone's), I relate to each of your calling to the craft in your histories; thank you for sharing.

Magic has been calling to me since early childhood (I am in my 40's now), and I have been largely ignoring it. Partly because of stigma, partly because of fear or lack of confidence, but mostly because it is so damn hard to find a community and/or a mentor. Even online where "everyone has a place", I have struck out in previous attempts to get connected, learn, and grow. Alas, perhaps I give up too easily.

Your beginner's page suggests some readings, of which I have purchased "Scott Cunningham's Wicca: A Guide for the Solitary Practitioner since it seems I will likely always be a Solitary Practitioner (and student). It should arrive early next week if not by Saturday, but I took the opportunity to read the first chapter online (thanks to Amazon) and Scott said something that struck me. He said (paraphrasing), "If you are only interested in the practice of magick, then Wicca isn't for you."

Forgive my ignorance, but Wicca is worship of (Earth) Gods and Goddesses, is it not? And wasn't it magick that has been calling me all these decades? Herein lies my question, or should I say confusion. I thought, perhaps naively, one could practice the craft regardless of "faith"? Could/would you expand on Scott's statement, please? Am I barking up the wrong proverbial tree? Should I be looking elsewhere? I have academically studied many religions, and even followed some for a time, but I am unclear about Scott's intended meaning and if I am called to "follow" these deities. It seems this requires more thought and analysis on my part, but I need more information.

Another question I have is regarding Raymond Buckland's Complete Book of Witchcraft. Many have reviewed his book and claim he is condescending and arrogantly insists his way is better, as in "his way or the highway." This seems to contradict the practice? If there were only a few saying this, I would disregard them given how many have given it praise, but there are many more than a few. Would you share your thoughts on that?

Last question: Wicca - if I understand correctly - really only has one law, "Harm no one." It seems so black and white, right or wrong, silo'd without compromise or flexibility. I have no enemies or schemes against others, but I am not sure I can follow this law in total. I cannot predict the future me, or my circumstances.

Please accept my deepest apologies for this novel-length question/post. I hope for, and look forward to, your response(s). I approach you all with vulnerable ignorance, intellect, naivete, power, good will, and humility. May you all flourish.


Dear Rix,

I think what Cunningham meant when he said "If you are only interested in the practice of magick, then Wicca isn't for you," was that Wicca is so much more than just "magick." Wicca is a spiritual path which encourages a strong connection with the God, Goddess, and the Elements through ritual and meditation. Although magick is used in Wicca, it is not and should not be the focal point.

Buckland wrote the Complete Book of Witchcraft in the 1970's, a time when there was some snobbery with traditional practitioners. In his later books, those written after 2000, you can really read his more relaxed point of views.

No one can follow the Harm None rule strictly... our very existence causes harm. Instead, I believe the idea is to live each day as best as you can without intentionally and maliciously harming another.



Monday, September 22, 2014

Gail from Canada

A friend of mine has a portal in her basement. How do you close it?


Dear Gail,

A portal to where? Why did she open it?


Sunday, September 21, 2014

Gigi from Washington, DC

Hi, I was wondering what your advice would be about trying to conceive a baby girl? My husband and I already have sons, but he has always dreamed of having a little girl. I've done a bunch of research, and am trying the Chinese birth calendar and other methods, but was wondering what you would suggest?


Dear Gigi,

I have yet to know of a gender specific spell that works. Unfortunately, as of right now, gender is not something we get to determine.

There are some old wives' tale,s which vary from having sex two to three days before you ovulate, then abstaining the next four days (because female sperm swim slower than male sperm) to having your husband taking a HOT shower right before intercourse (because female sperm is more heat resistant than male sperm).

BUT, if I were going to attempt to do such a spell then I would have your husband participate in the spell because it's the semen which determines the sex of the baby.

13 Magickal Moons has a fantastic fertility spell kit which is super easy to do. Just modify the wording to specify a daughter.

Please let me know if you two finally have your little baby girl!


Saturday, September 20, 2014

Han from Jackson, MI

I have this dark side that punishes me. I have never been able to be comfortable with a live person. I was married once, but she had an affair. I had a girlfriend once, but she had an affair. I have seen these sex dolls on the web and am attracted to them gravely! They have all the needed parts and will never leave you. I want to dress them up as a witch and have a good time with them. Am I mad? Am I mental? You can Google men having sex with them. I feel I belong to some cult that needs this!


Dear Han,

OMG, dude... go seek some professional help!


Friday, September 19, 2014

Rick from McLennan, Canada

Is there a spell you can do so that my wife can't lie about an affair she had? I want her to tell me the truth about what really happened the night she spent at this particular person's apartment.


Dear Rick,

Truth spells are really hard to do because most of the time we don't really want to know the truth. We want to know our version of the truth.

A combination of herbs (such as mullein and moonwort) and gemstones (like lapis lazuli, amber, and bloodstone) placed in the room where you're going to talk to her might be useful.

But I don't think a truth spell is going to work for you. I suspect that this topic has come up a number of times, and at this point it is a defensive discussion between the two of you. Discussions that turn defensive don't really allow for any kind of honest communication to happen. Good luck, honey.

If you trust your wife, believe her. If you don't trust your wife, couple's therapy may be the way to go.


Monday, September 8, 2014

Kim from New Zealand

Hi there. I really just need help removing a curse. I have been contacting absolutely everyone and I am just getting nothing back. Possibly it could be part of the curse. It's not for me, its for my partner and his family. It seems to be a generational thing. I'm exhausted.

Honestly any feedback is welcome. I adore magic. I have an affinity for witchcraft but I am not a witch and just don't feel I am powerful enough to remove whatever is bothering my partner's family. Thanks for your time.


Dear Kim,

Anyone who has the focus and need to remove a curse CAN. It doesn't matter if you consider yourself a witch or not.  No one but you, your partner, or his family should perform the curse removal.

13 Magickal Moons has a Curse Removal Kit which has had an extremely high success rate.


Sunday, September 7, 2014

Rebecca from Virginia

If one feels drawn towards Hecate as their Goddess of choice/Deity, which God would be appropriate for balancing energy? Thank you. :)


Dear Rebecca,

In Greek mythology, Zeus honored Hecate above all others, so I would feel safe in saying He would be an appropriate option.


Saturday, September 6, 2014

Ashley from Fairfax, VA

I was wondering if there were books you recommend for introducing a child to Wicca? My son (about to turn 9) is becoming interested and I was looking for aides to help him understand. Thank you!


Dear Ashley,

There are a few really fantastic books I can recommend for you.

Rupert's Tales: The Wheel of the Year Beltane, Litha, Lammas, and Mabon by Kyrja

Rupert's Tales: The Wheel of the Year: Samhain, Yule, Imbolc, Ostara by Kyrja

Rupert's Tales: The Wheel of the Year Activity Book by Kyrja

Family Wicca: Revised and Expanded Edition by Ashleen O'Gaea


Friday, September 5, 2014

Rachael from Isle of Man

Hi, I'm not sure if I'm imagining this, but today I went for a walk in the forest. We took the wrong path, leading us to fallen trees in our way. I decided to go ahead and see where it leads. As I was watching the ground to see where it was safe to stand, I felt as if something was telling me where exactly to go. I got through the branches with ease while my friend was struggling way behind. They told me I looked like I knew where all the loose branches were, as if I set it up, and knew the bad parts. Is this a sign of my inner power starting to emerge? I love animals and everything to do with the outdoors. I'm not sure if it's my mind playing tricks, but it felt like something was guiding me through. I'm very new to this, but your help will be greatly appreciated! :)


Dear Rachael,

Your spirit guide was guiding you through. You were open enough to hear your spirit guide direct you where to go. Your friends were not, which isn't a slight against them, it just shows how open you were to listening to directions.


Thursday, September 4, 2014

Niko from Pittsburg, CA

Hello, I have a question about Deity that is quite confusing to me. It actually has been for quite a long time. It's more of a Wiccan concept, I believe, in the soft polytheist view of the Divine. I understand that there is the Divine, Creator; then Wiccans divide the Source into two halves, God and Goddess. The confusion begins with the cultural deities. All cultural deities are aspects, forms, or faces of the Divine God and Goddess, correct? But some books claim to never mix deities, because some do not get along, according to mythology. But if they are all forms of the Divine, why would this be an issue? God conflicting with God?..It just doesn't make sense to me unless you're a hard polytheist viewing them each as separate and unique entities and not a part of one whole. Is it because of energy?. If I am doing love work, I would call upon Aphrodite for example, and not goddess Morrigan, because this aspect of the Goddess deals with more war, battle and over-coming obstacles rather than love. If it deals with "energy," that makes sense to me. Any advice would be much appreciated. Blessings!


Dear Niko,

I agree with you. I often tell my students to work with the deities that they feel a pull towards, no matter the culture they stem from.


Wednesday, September 3, 2014

Emily from England

Hello, something terrible has happened and I desperately need some money. I want to apply for a loan to cover the costs but I don't know if I will get it. I have already been declined once. Please can you give me a spell so that I can be successful when I apply this afternoon? Please help me. I am not a greedy person. I always try to help others, but right now when I need help, no one is here to help me. Thank you.


Dear Emily,

Try this attraction spell using a magnet. Write the (reasonable) amount of the loan on a bay leaf. Put the side of the bay leaf that has the amount written on it against your driver's license. Using two refrigerator magnets, put a magnet on either side of the license and bay leaf so the magnets hold it all together. This can attract the money to you. Hold the items in your hand and repeat the following incantation three times: 
"Lord and Lady, hear my plea, approve this loan quickly for me."


Tuesday, September 2, 2014

Anthony from San Antonio, TX

This isn't a question as much as it is advice/help. I have always known I've had a certain connection to myself, others, the earth, and the higher power out there. I've always known and believed I am a witch. I've just always been a little nervous/scared to tap into and really start to use these gifts since I didn't really know how. I used to watch Charmed as a kid, and though it's not at all what real magic is, I connected with it. So within the last three years, I've started to practice spells and rituals. But as I've sort of started to see results, I've started to use them in a very personal gain manner. I just want to know how it is you three refrain from this. I understand and believe personally that magic should be practiced to benefit the earth and its cause, not to change something that I want.

Also, lately, I've been doing this more often, and I find myself drained, feeling out of energy, and very weak. I know this is due to the way I practice magic. I just need advice on how to continue.


Dear Anthony,

I disagree with the personal gain thing. I think it's completely okay to perform magick for yourself to make your life better, just not at the malicious expense of another person. You may be feeling drained because you are not grounding, centering, and replenishing your energy sources after performing magick.


Monday, September 1, 2014

Anonymous Sisters from Decatur, GA

Um... Why are you guys so full of awesome?

Seriously though, thank you for providing a blog which allows people from all walks of life to ask spiritual and personal questions, even those that are cray :) The answers given are thoughtful and kind, straight-forward, and even abrasively blunt when needed. Blessed be.


Dear Anonymous Sisters,

Because of people like you who take the time to read our wacky little blog! Thanks for the compliment; you made our day!

Namaste, bitches! ;)