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Saturday, January 31, 2015

Layla from Silver Spring, MD

I'm just starting my journey into witchcraft so of course I have a thousand and one questions! One of my burning ones is: how do I create my own spell and organize the right ritual for it? Like choosing the right herbs, oils, stones, candles, words, etc? I just ordered several books to read so I still don't know much, but from my basic understanding, it seems like mostly everything centers around intention. So would it, hypothetically, work because I will it to, even though it's not an "established" spell? And, extending from that...what makes a spell different from another, if they have the same result? For example, there can be countless "abundance" spells and techniques to perform them...why would they all work? Is there a way one spell is more powerful over another? Thanks so much in advance!!


Dear Layla,

Spells are fueled by the need for the outcome. Your intention is what causes the spell to succeed or fail.

You are the most powerful tool in your magickal cabinet. With just a thought the emotions and your pointer finger, you can cast the most powerful spell. Herbs, gemstones, oils, colors, etc can all help us to focus on what our intention is. Gemstones and herbs can add some energy to your spellwork, but really not enough to make a significant difference. By adding your intention to the gemstones, herbs, oils, etc, you're adding more energy to the spell and thereby increasing your chances for success.

Llewellyn's Complete Book of Correspondences is a fantastic book to have on hand for creating your own rituals and spells.


Friday, January 30, 2015

Sarah from Richmond, VA

As a college student, things can become stressful very easily. I have been studying crystals and frequency since school began, trying to raise my spiritual awareness and become a more actively positive person; the only things getting in my way are the occasional bad affects of medication.

For the most part, I feel spiritually in tuned with the Universe and with my higher self. It's only when I take my ADHD medication, for school, that I feel out of balance. Normally I am hyper and social with everyone around me, and although I sometimes feel my inner child comes out, I feel easy going and free flowing. Overall, I love being unmedicated, but I need medication to stay focused and on task with my academics.

When I take my medication, my body feels deprived of all energy. I am out of touch with my spiritual self. I see people I would normally strike up conversation with, but then I would rather stay silent and talk to them another time, when I don't feel like everything I communicate will come out half-hearted and awkward. I can't speak, my thoughts are an irrational mess with no linkage points, and I loose sleep and my appetite.

I absolutely hate this zombie-affect my medication has on me. I feel detached, depressed, and just drained. Are there any crystals, herbs, spells, our daily prayers I can use to counteract these negative affects of my meds? Please, any suggestions, anything at all, would be greatly appreciated. I am doing all I can for myself, like eating healthy and remembering to stay positive (working from daily exercises to raise my vibrational rate), but I think magick can give me that extra push needed to get me through those moments, on my meds, where nothing seems to work.

Lastly, I just need to thank you for all that you are doing. I haven't yet had the time to come to your shop in Occoquan, but I will be sure to visit at my earliest opportunity. (My sister is the one who introduced me to your work). In the meantime, your blog has been exceptionally useful to me. Stay blessed and have a beautiful day!


Dear Sarah,

Let me start off by saying that I'm really proud of you for staying on your medication. You understand the importance of staying on it, and despite its side effects, you continue on it. That says a lot about you, and I really look forward to meeting you.

Gemstones: Citrine and carnelian are both energy and confidence boosters. Moonstone, sunstone, and amethyst help connect you with your spirituality. Use blue lace agate to de-stress and help get rid of anxiety when talking to other people. Fluorite is useful because it can help in all areas of the brain.

Herbs: Don't use herbs medicinally because they could possibly counteract the ADHD medication. Magickally speaking, herbs like lemon peel, orange peel, sunflower, calendula, St. John's wort, rosemary, lavender, and jasmine can all help with building confidence, energy, spirituality, and helping to ease depression.

Incantations: "I am the one, I am the power." Repeating this over and over again. I really like to use malas/prayer beads when doing affirmations because it helps me to focus on what I'm doing and it helps me to reenforce the ideas and the emotions behind the affirmation.

We are really happy that you enjoy reading the blog! Hope you enjoy reading the future posts we have coming.


Thursday, January 29, 2015

Amanda from Boston, MA

Hi, I am having a problem. Well, it's been an ongoing problem. I went to a psychic about five years ago who told me a spirit is following me. I do believe this to be true, but I don't understand why though. I have such horrible luck and it seems like something is making this happen. My dog will look behind me and bark at something, and he only barks when he hears people outside. I would like some advice on what I can do, I don't know where else to turn. I'm scared.


Dear Amanda,

Please read our response to Brittney from Las Vegas. This will give you a ritual to help banish the entity from your life.


Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Harsh from New Delhi, India

I am a boy and I want to be a girl.


Dear Harsh,

Changing your sex is a long, difficult, and expensive emotional and medical process. If you honestly feel you were born the wrong sex, then the years it takes to make the conversion happen will be worth it. 
There isn't a fast, easy spell to do it for you.

I'm assuming you're a teenager, and this is really something you need to talk to your parents about. Hopefully, your understanding parents will connect you with a supportive counsellor who will be able to guide you on the ins and outs about how to go about doing this.

Always be wary of online support groups - I recommend teenagers not using them. Best of luck!


Tuesday, January 20, 2015

Julie from Port Huron, MI

Is there a ritual for help during pregnancy /delivery?


Dear Julie,

Isis, Kali, and Lilith are three great goddesses to have in the delivery room with you. 
That's about all I have for you though. The pain is the pain of delivery. You can opt for anesthesia the doctors will offer you if you wish. Otherwise, focus on your breathing and find your happy place! Good luck!


Monday, January 19, 2015

Sarah from Richmond, VA

I have a cousin that I rarely get to see - maybe once a year, at the most. He is three years old, mixed with Lao heritage, deaf like my uncle, and has these incredible icy blue/gray eyes. I never noticed this before, as he was just a baby the last time I saw him, but when I made eye contact with him at a recent family gathering, I felt the strangest affection for him. He doesn't say anything, as he is deaf, but he just looked at me as if he recognized not only me, but my spirit, my soul. He kind of smiled at me, but mostly with those piercing eyes! I felt a very strong connection to him. What could this mean? Is it possible that we were connected in a past life?

I've only had this happen one other time before, when I was just a little girl. I used to play with a toddler, at least five years younger than me, named Emma. She had the same ice blue eyes, but less gray and with green around the pupils. I always played with her and I loved her, as if I were her older sister or her mother. When I look back on it now, ten years later, I felt that same connection to her as I did my younger cousin.

Do you believe in past lives?


Dear Sarah,

Absolutely, I believe in past lives. I believe it explains a lot about the initial emotional responses that we have to certain people, be it either positive or negative.


Sunday, January 18, 2015

Aaron from Lenexa, KS

Like everybody, I know the Christian version, but is there a pagan definition for what a demon is? I am pagan born and raised and I have seen spirits in person and watched magic work, so I don't doubt my beliefs, but I know a few people who have had encounters with harmful spirits and I would like to know more about them to better be prepared just in case. Thank you.


Dear Aaron,

In my opinion, a demon is an evil person who has passed on, but not moved on. When a person dies, the essence of who they are remains with them until they cross over into Summerland. A rat bastard evil person in life is a rat bastard evil person in death. We refer to them as demons.


Saturday, January 17, 2015

Daniel from Anaheim, CA

I need help on a spell and a curse. It requires someone to talk to a mystic, demonic-like voice or a voice that interrupts to make it seem like a real human talking.


Dear Daniel,

WTF are you talking about?


Friday, January 16, 2015

Rob from Saratoga, CA

Can you fulfill my lifelong dream to see real live Eurasian Hoopoes in the wild and captivity, please?

Can you you fulfill my lifelong dream to whistle, please?

Are there any good, beautiful witches out there like Glinda from the film version of The Wizard of Oz (1939) that wear diamond tiaras instead of tall crowns? Do they live in castles? What are their names, where do they live, and can you give my their addresses, please?

Can you tell a good witch to send me a sack of $20.00 bills to our house on XXXX XXXXXXX XXXXX Road, Saratoga, CA right away with a letter, please?

Please answer promptly on your website.


Dear Rob,

*stares blankly at the monitor*

*crickets chirping in the background*


Thursday, January 15, 2015

Larna from England

I have been a practicing witch now for around five years, but I've never come across a situation such as this. Y'see, I'm 18 years old, in college, and I've never met another witch my age... until this week. The only problem is, I stupidly never asked her name. I was just wondering if there was a spell I could possibly use to find this person? I just think it'd be so nice to have somebody to share my love of the Craft with - compare notes if you will. Any help would be appreciated, thanks.


Dear Larna,

The first thing that comes to mind is an attraction spell. You would need a picture of yourself, a magnet, and a piece of paper on which you write as much detail about that girl as you can remember. Then you can modify this attraction spell I wrote for Emily from England.


Wednesday, January 14, 2015

Nancy from California

Hi, I'm asking about the "Joining Together Spell," which is quite easy and seems so nice to do. I love this boy and I want him to prose to me on a specific date. However, I was wondering, can you write "you will propose to me on -insert date-" under the "you love me" written words?

Please answer my question. I want to try the spell soon so I was hoping you could answer quickly.

Also, when the spell is done and has been cast, is there a way I could discard the two pictures? Is it okay to wet them in water, completely wet, and flush them or something? Because I don't want my parents seeing the pictures and everything. If there is a better way to get rid of them, could you tell me about it? (As long as it's not scary and all...) Plus, could I cut them to itty bitty shreds and flush them away? It wouldn't hurt our relationship and the spell right?

Again, thanks in advance for answering this question. Could you please give me your email so I can ask you questions in private so it would be better? Thanks.


Dear Nancy,

Hell, no, I am not giving you my private email address! I have a life outside of Ask-A-Witch that does not include sitting in front of my computer all day long to be the instantaneous beck-and-call Ask-A-Witch.

I have no idea of what "Joining Together Spell" you're talking about, however when it comes to disposing of pictures, whatever method you feel is best is fine. If you want to cut the pictures into tiny pieces and flush them, go ahead. If you want to wet them and flush them, go ahead. If you want to put them in a fireproof container and set fire to them go ahead.


Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Aerin from Indonesia

Do you know how to make a lucky charm, a real lucky charm in a simple way, and with no effect when you lose it?


Dear Aerin,

Any piece of jewelry can be transformed into a lucky charm with no magickal backlash should the item be lost or stolen. Simply hold the item in the palms of your hands and focus your intention on what you would like that item's purpose to be.


Monday, January 12, 2015

Ali from Canada

Hi there, I was reading a section in a book about color magick. It tells me that the purpose of black was: returning to sender, divination, negative work, and protection. By negative work, does it imply "black magick"? And if so, how can its purpose be negative work AND protection? This may seem like a silly question, but it genuinely confused me, and I'm just starting out.

Thank you! PS- Is it wrong to do spells to ask the Goddess for wealth and abundance? I've noticed a lot of spells for wealth, along with love spells, in this book as well.


Dear Ali,

Many colors can be used in "black magick". It's all about intention. Magick is neither black nor white, it just is. The practitioner sets the tone or shade.

No, it's not wrong to ask the Goddess for wealth and abundance. Just remember that you have to spend time communicating with the Goddess and not just constantly asking her for things.


Sunday, January 11, 2015

Luke from Australia

Hi, I came across this term in an obscure forum thread: "Sound Magic"...Can you tell me if this is a generalized term or is it, perhaps, a specific form of magic or witchcraft? Thanks!


Dear Luke,

Sound magic is a specific form of magick that utilizes the vibrations and tones of sounds. This can be from an instrument, voice, or any other implement you can get sound from.

I recommend the book Sacred Sounds by Ted Andrews for more information.


Saturday, January 10, 2015

Elisabeth from San Antonio, TX

I need to do a second chances spell asap to win back the love of my life. I want to do two spells for some extra oomf, but they both require that I wait for a different moon phase and I simply can't. My heart is broken. Any advice?


Dear Elisabeth,

Y'all have heard me say this before, but an ex is an ex for a reason, be it by their actions or ours.

I can tell you now that since you're feeling so desperate, your spell has a 95% chance to fail. Desperation is a negative emotion that is like a wet wash cloth dampening everything. When you're in a less desperate state of mind, try modifying this love spell we wrote for Merlin from Camelot, VA.


Friday, January 9, 2015

Gayle from Dumfries, VA

How can I get started learning about magic? I don't want to do this on my own because I don't want any dark or black magic in me.


Dear Gayle,

The only way that black or dark magick could be in you is if you are an extremely negative person. Magick isn't black or white, it just is. It is the person and the intention that creates the positive or negative effects that magick has.

Dorothy Morrison has a great set of spell books, the Everyday Magic series. Another of her books, The Craft is a good resource.

If you're looking to work with other like-minded people, then check out The Witches' Voice.


Thursday, January 8, 2015

Shelly from Woodbridge, VA

I read your advice to Carol about binding. My question is how can I use that method to bind someone who has done something to me when I have to interact with them when we are all around my children at the same time? How can I change it around so that I am able to be civil towards them for the sake of my children and bind them from being able to harm me again?

Thank you for this blog and all the advice you give to each and everyone of us! You ladies rock!!!!!

Blessed Be.


Dear Shelly,

Modify the wording of the spell to meet your needs. The important part of a binding isn't so much the words you use but the intention and the amount of energy used in the spell. For example, try binding her nastiness, gossiping, etc., not the person in her entirety.


Wednesday, January 7, 2015

Unity4All from Woodbridge, VA

I purchased two witches bottles, one for meditation and dream spell. What would be the process of moving forward? Also, what crystals would I give my son to help him with comprehension and memory for studying? 

Love and Peace.


Dear Unity4All,

Hold the individual witch bottles between the palms of your hands and think about your intention. See and feel your intentions flowing down your arms, into your hands, and into the bottle. This is called charging the witch bottle.

A great gemstone for memory retention is fluorite. You can also give your son blue lace agate because it helps to destress the body and take away nerves and anxiety, which people often feel when taking tests.


Tuesday, January 6, 2015

Bridgetta from Sterling, VA

One day I came home and the overhead light in the kitchen would just not trigger. It's not a light I can replace, so I cooked dinner by the stove light and was preparing to request a maintenance appointment, but the next day it was fine and functional. This random power malfunction started happening more and more frequently as time went on, and then it stopped.

A few months later, l came home and my bedside lamp was blown...or so I thought. I turned the bulb and it seemed to be fine. Then every day for about a week, I would come home and the lightbulb to my bedside lamp would be loose and I would have to tighten it...every time. I thought maybe there was a spirit in my home, but then one day that randomly stopped too. It stayed lit from then on. I didn't replace the bulb at any time. That was early this summer.

That stopped awhile ago, but just today, I was preparing to replace three blown bulbs of the five in my bathroom, and I turned one bulb the incorrect way to unscrew it and it lit right up! And the same was the case with the other two "blown" bulbs.

I smudged my house and myself in September after an encounter (which I shared on here) with what I can only assume is a malicious spirit or shadow person in which I was attacked in my sleep. Today was my last day in the apartment, so I won't be returning to that space, BUT I want to know if this is some kind of trend of electrical flukes or a spirit? And if it is a spirit, is it malicious? Can it follow me to my new home?


Dear Bridgetta,

It might be a fluke because you life in an apartment. All those vibrations of the people living in the building can loosen the bulbs. It's not uncommon in apartments and townhouses.

But it might also be a spirit. When you life in an apartment building or townhouse, you don't only have your energy, but the energy of every person who shares a connecting wall; the people to the right and left of you, and those below and above you. All of those people's energies can manifest a spirit, especially if they are particularly nasty or negative. The energy can collect and can create a spirit manifestation. It's not the type of spirit of a person who has moved on. It would be a collection of the negative energy of all those living around you. If this is the case, no, it should not follow you.

To be safe though, try some easy home protection measures like these I recommended to Star from Europe.


Monday, January 5, 2015

BellaDonna from Fort Collins, CO

Hi, I'm a witch and I'm having trouble owning my belief system. I recently got a friend a blessing candle and some sage and wrote a blessing for her new store. Someone else that she works with refused to work if the candle was burning! She claimed it's dark and the devil's work. This was incredibly hurtful, and anyone that knows anything about Wicca knows that's not what we are about! How do you deal with soap box Christians? I was feeling so open and welcomed then completely shut down! In a world where I feel we've come so far, I feel I'm starting at ground zero! I don't want to hide anymore!


Dear BellaDonna,

People suck, plain and simple. Most will talk crap or make assumptions about things they just don't understand or have very little knowledge about.  
I used to be an in-your-face witch, but as I get older I have found I don't really need to be. I can't change someone's opinion on Wicca by being combative. Instead, I choose to show them the real me. If people don't accept you because you're a practitioner of Wicca, then fuck 'em, I say.


Sunday, January 4, 2015

Doug from San Diego, CA

What is witchcraft ? I know it's not like TV shows and what people says it is. I am confused. People say it is evil to even say witchcraft. Can you help me out? I talked to one witch and I can't believe it. She was the nicest person I talked to in a while, much nicer than people I know. I know witchcraft cannot perform miracles like TV shows portray it. Thanks a lot!


Dear Doug,

Witchcraft is a spiritual practice which honors both a God and a Goddess, understands that the elements of Earth, Air, Fire, and Water reside within and around us, and allows the practitioner to take complete control of their own spirituality. The idea behind witchcraft is to be the best person you can be and to try to recognize that the Divine resides within all of us. Witches are everyday people. They are moms and dads, federal agents, stay-at-home caregivers, they work in corporate America, at your local retail store, and everything in between.

Although it's nothing like what you see on TV, magick, the focus of one's energy to create change in their life, can in fact create miracles.

For more information, please refer to our Advice for New Witches page.