Dude, I don't even know what to say to you. Half of your post sounds serious and the other half sounds like some kind of bad movie.
Claircognizance is the ability to know things with no perceivable way of knowing it. If you really want to learn how to control these "gifts", black tourmaline can help create a barrier between you and other people which should help you enough to want to not invade their privacy. Reading other people's thoughts and forcing them to do your bidding is shitty and is something you can control if you want to. If you can in fact do these things, then you are choosing to do them.